5 Myths About Being Queer and Christian

Top 5 List: 5 Myths About Being Queer and Christian

It's time to bust some myths! There are a lot of misconceptions out there about being both queer and Christian, and it's important to set the record straight. Here are five common myths, debunked:

Myth 1: You can't be queer and Christian.

Truth: This is simply not true. There are countless LGBTQ+ individuals who are also deeply devoted to their Christian faith. Many churches and denominations are incredibly welcoming and affirming of queer people, celebrating their identities and their faith.

Myth 2: The Bible condemns homosexuality.

Truth: The Bible is a complex book with varying interpretations. Some people argue that certain verses condemn homosexual acts, while others believe those verses are taken out of context or refer to different practices altogether. There's a lot of room for discussion and different understandings here.

Myth 3: Being queer is a choice.

Truth: This is a harmful misconception. Scientific research increasingly suggests that sexual orientation is not a choice. It's likely a complex mix of biological, psychological, and environmental factors that shape who we are.

Myth 4: All Christians are homophobic.

Truth: Absolutely not! Many Christians hold inclusive and affirming views about LGBTQ+ people. In fact, there are numerous organizations and movements of Christians who are passionate about advocating for LGBTQ+ rights and full inclusion within the church.

Myth 5: Queer people are trying to "push an agenda" on Christians.

Truth: This couldn't be further from the truth. Like everyone else, LGBTQ+ individuals simply want to be accepted and have equal rights in society and within their faith communities. They desire to live authentically and practice their faith without facing discrimination.

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One of the greatest privileges I have had in my career is walking alongside scared queer Christians as they untangle the web of beliefs they've been handed. Many people come in feeling deeply confused because they've been told a lot of untruths that don't square with their experiences. Some common ones I've heard over the years are: "Maybe this is just my cross to bear," "We aren't supposed to trust our feelings," "Anything bad that happens in my life is punishment for being gay/trans." But often, people also say things like this: "When it's just me and God, I feel Their delight in me just as I am."

Queer people raised in certain Christian traditions are often told they can't be both queer and Christian. They're made to feel like they have to choose between two vital pieces of their essence. However, all of these misconceptions could not be further from the truth. In therapy and coaching sessions, people have the space to approach these beliefs with curiosity in a safe environment. That sense of curiosity often leaves people walking away not only with a better understanding of themselves, but also of God. In all of the times I've walked with someone through this process, one thing always happens: people feel brighter, more alive, and experience more joy in their faith when they start to experience the truth that you can be both fully queer and Christian.

-Alicia Brock, Christian Closet Therapist and Coach